We all want the ecstasy. Oh, the excitement of being wanted! Knowing someone out there might be equally mad about us as we feel toward them. The thrill that keeps you awake and night. I mean, who doesn't want that? Ok, I might know a few, but I'll leave that for another post.
If you haven't experienced any mind boggling rush this summer, you're in big trouble.
...Or, are you?
Before we start, here's some music to set the mood for this post:
I was expecting autumn to arrive earlier this year, to be completely honest.
I've heard the weather might stay pleasant all throughout September, but I was hoping we might see a cloud or two here and there. Also, I have about 10 hats that are eager to see the daylight again. It's not fair.
What is it about summer, anyway?
While it arguably may be the most giving season out there in terms of things like barefoot walks or outdoor late night talks, I think summer is, generally speaking, pretty overrated.
When I was younger, I used to feel particularly sad around this time of the year. Not sure what it was, but on several occasions, as I would watch the sun set over the horizon, I would suddenly burst into tears for no reason whatsoever.
Why is that?
Perhaps it was the fact that I would see all these people around me setting their bets on the person they've decided to spend the upcoming cold December nights with, whereas I would still ponder over the fact that I had nobody and had to settle down for it.
I'm not saying I have it all figured out, but as I grew older, I did realize something...
Summer is the biggest hoax out there!
Why is it that summertime is all about having the time of our lives, but then, as it starts to go away, we suddenly find ourselves pulling straws on who's going to be the biggest looser out there?
Is summer the ultimate metaphor for life's greatest achievements? If that's the case, what about the rest of the year? Are we supposed to accept the fact that we missed our train and simply drop dead as soon as we reach the next station on foot?
You've been lied to
We all grew up with this idea of needing someone to make us feel whole again and, ironically enough, summertime was just about the perfect time to have that done.
Those carefree hang outs on the balcony, followed by soft whispers and warm hugs to ward off the chills you get from the late night summer breeze as you wait for the first sunrise to take place...
It's all a facade. Don't buy into it.
Yeah, people find other people. And so it happens that it's summer, but that's more or less about it. Also, others are no concern of yours. They don't pay your bills, so why bother?
Stop comparing yourself to others!
I'm sure this is something you get to hear on a daily basis, but please understand this - you can't expect to feel good about yourself or any other thing you've managed to accomplish in life as long as you keep looking at what others have done in comparison. One of these has to go.
Whether you will let yourself accept the fact that you're not going the same way others are, or at the same pace or not, the choice is up to you to make.
Bear in mind that by taking one out and embracing the other, you are laying the foundation for something that will, most definitely, unfold at some point in the future.
We put way too much pressure on summer
In reality, is summer really to be held responsible for everything that's happened or is it our self imposed expectations of summer that's making it seem that way?
Can you actually blame your failures on not being given the right set of circumstances?
No? Didn't think so.
So, what can I do to change that?
Well, for start, stop chasing after the next hype. Whether it's your summer crush or this new toaster that's just been out, try to tell apart what's important from the next distraction that's been served to you. Remember, there are no universal rules in life. You are the one who needs to lay the groundwork.
Second, try to set some goals.
It doesn't have to be something big or ambitious, but lets say want to start implementing some healthier habits into your daily routine.
Ok, that sounds good!
For example, try getting up earlier to set out your plans for the day. Make a list of all the activities that you would like to accomplish that day, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem at the time. Write those down and start acting upon them.
"Maturity is not when we start speaking big things,
Once you reach your daily target, even by doing those small tasks you otherwise consider trivial, you will regain that sense of personal empowerment and get a clear picture on where you stand in contrast to the circumstances presented to you.
Remember - It's not about the summer.
That way, no matter what happens, you will know that you are in full control of your thoughts and behavior. Once you accept this as the ultimate reality of things, you will stop blaming your current state of mind on the outer circumstances and, therefore, be able to do something about it.
That's an encouraging thought.
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