By the end of this day, you will have made about 35.000 unique choices.
We only get to actively choose a few, whereas the rest will mostly slip unnoticed.
Make the ones you are aware of count.
We've all done stupid things in life. Whether it was that time we stubbornly kept wearing the same worn out shirt, hoping no one would notice, or back when we said something hurtful to someone we truly cared about, the fact is - there are things we didn't entirely think through.
Fortunately, things (can) change.
Why change in the first place?
Well, for start, because it's something we can do. Unless we are conditioned by a disease or any other problem of that sort, I really don't see a reason why we shouldn't give something a try.
They say only the wisest and fools never change their ways. Try not labelling yourself before running out of options.
Is change necessary?
Ask yourself whether you currently are in a place you had imagined yourself would be back when you were thinking about the future. If there's something about the way your life has been unfolding that's making you feel uneasy and you know you can do something about it, then yes, you are in desperate need of a change.
Why is change so hard?
Habits are an integral part of our lives. We start acquiring all sorts of habits from an early age, creating both good and bad routines that ultimately shape the course of our lives. Understanding the importance and the inevitability of habits helps us approach them from a different angle and, eventually, readjust them based on our current needs and goals in life.
Changing habits can be a difficult task, especially those we find too difficult to give up. The struggle is real and it is very much present.
"Growth is painful. Change is painful.
By trying to change something that plays such a significant role in our lives, we are putting our identity at stake, ultimately scaling the importance of one such action versus keeping the things the way they are, even if it means to keep indulging in silent misery and self loathing. And that's scary.
Can you teach an old dog new tricks?
The answer here is quite simple - if you feel like you need a fresh start, no matter how old or well grounded you might feel, changing things up for the better is definitely a habit you might want to start incorporating.
For the record - I don't think anybody is too old to change.
"Old" is just a word, a social construct.
People often cling onto past experiences, thinking how everything they've been through is the only thing that defines them.
In reality, things are not as complex as we wish to portray them.
So, what can you do about it?
One thing you need to understand - by simply choosing to set a new foundation, no matter how hard and bumpy it may get along the road, nor how slow the overall progress may seem,you are doing something groundbreaking (see what I did there) for your long term wellbeing and that is such a rewarding thing to experience!
Knowing and recognizing that inner strength is probably the best thing you will get out of such experience and, possibly, the only one you will ever need. Once you become aware of it - It's there. It's yours.
Wherever you go, whatever hardships or obstacles you may face in the future, it follows.
It never goes away.
And that's so empowering!
By knowing your inner strength and knowing that you have the liberty to change at any given circumstances, you thrive. Things come into focus and you, once again, regain a sense of self importance in this world.
Living an authentic, self-aware life fueled by a sense of purpose is arguably the best thing one can obtain in this lifetime, so why not give it a shot?
I believe we've all done worse than that.
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